I've been trying to do this:

I have decided a while ago that I do everything with my trading for a reason. Even if the results end up with my losing money, I did that activity for some reason that was making sense at some level. This way, I have acceptance for what I do good or bad, and then if possible I can try to back track the reasoning and come up with some way to change the response to the reasoning. For instance at times I am in a trade that right away just looks like I made a mistake, and I am often tempted to bail and exit right then and there. But I know from long experience that most of the time I will be getting out right before it moves in my favor. So now I tighten my stop very close so that at worst case I might be rinsed out of the trade, but if it is about to pop in my favor I will still be in the trade. It's a slight difference, but it is a concrete behaviour difference when I want to bail on a trade going nowhere. In other words, at that point in the past where I was about to bail on a trade, I recognize this and do a different action. This is instead of making the same mistake over and over and getting mad about it, which fuels frustration for me.

 

I certainly still get out of trades at the worst point, but the idea is to backtrack to the moment of the original reaction "the trade is going nowhere I'm just going to get out now" and then doing a different behaviour "instead I'll just put a very close stop in case this is about to go in my favor as seems to happen so often". I think it's important to be concrete with actions instead of going crazy wondering why you do the same mistakes over and over in trading. The reason is simple, you are trying to protect your money and your profits. It's just the fiendish nature of trading correctly that your first impules in trying to do this are those total dumb newbie moves. Once you clear this game level, the losses of others are available to you as profits.

 

I am barely able to do the above paragraphs but this detail is the game for me.

 

Here is an interesting Steenbarger post:

 

http://traderfeed.blogspot.com/2007/09/using-emotion-to-change-emotion.html